My Path

I like asking questions…why am I hanging out with these people that are not on my path? doing things I don’t want to do? I do things that are worth my time.

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Look for the Crack!

The light gets in because there is a crack in everything. I look for the crack and let it in.

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You’re Not just Anything

I was playing golf awhile ago and there was a twosome ahead of me, a woman and a teenage boy. I was walking the course and they were in a golf cart so I was able to keep a comfortable distance between us. I watched at numerous holes how the woman drove the cart, took videos of the teenager’s swing and commented on his shots. I assumed she was his coach.

When we were all done playing I ran into the woman in the rest room and asked if she was his coach. She said “No, I’m just his mother. Today is his birthday and I took him out to play golf.”

I looked at her and said “you’re not just his mother, you ARE his mother. She looked at me for a few seconds, smiled, and walked away.

None of us are just anything; WE ARE someone, each of us.

Whatever I do, I present myself and talk about what I do and who I am in a noble manner. If I see myself that way, others will too.

I AM and YOU ARE.

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Gratitude

Gratitude lives inside of me.

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Let Go

I let go to make room for better things to come into my life.

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Look for the Light

I see the light in everything. Sometimes I have to look for it…and there it is.

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It’s So Boring!

I used to practice yoga regularly at the same studio. Now I do it at home on my own. Sometimes I miss the camaraderie of practicing with others, then I remember what made me decide to leave the community.

I overheard some of my fellow yogis complaining about the studio, the classes offered, the teachers, etc. I thought to myself yoga is supposed to be about quieting the mind, freeing oneself from all that wasted chatter, and negative thinking so we can live fully in the present moment.

Looking at myself I know there are times when I have allowed myself to engage in negative thinking and worse sharing it with others. All the focus on the bad hands that I feel have been dealt to me, or the unkind, insensitive, thoughtless comments I feel people have thrown my way that I feel are holding me back. It’s wasted energy bringing misery to my life and those around me.

It’s so boring to focus on the negatives when all those things are really positives in my life, things that have made me the person I am today. Those moments made me stronger and pushed me forward to get above what I feel are obstacles. I’m grateful for it, all of it, and know I have the choice to view everything as an advantage or disadvantage. Going forward I am choosing the positive.

Try that thinking in the New Year; it will work for you too.

Happy New Year!

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Watch!

I don’t force, I allow, and watch what comes into my life.

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On Being Uncommon

My nephew was a cigarette smoker for 18 years. He is now a non-smoker for 18 months.

Curious as to why he was able to really quit this time, as like most smokers he tried several times but never stuck to it, I asked how he did it and why it worked this time.

First, the number one reason he started smoking was peer pressure, everyone else was doing it so he did it. It was something to do while hanging out with friends. That’s not surprising as I believe that is why most people start.

He knew at some point he had to quit for the obvious reasons of health, expense ($8/pack where he lives), and the social stigma associated with the activity.

The number one reason he quit was he made a commitment to his daughter. His eight year old girl said “by the time I turn twelve I want you to quit smoking.” They made a deal. Four years is a long time to fulfill an obligation, but my nephew never forgot, nor did his daughter. As quitting time got closer his daughter was going on a school trip for a week and one parent was to accompany their child. All adults were told no smoking on the trip. Ha! As we all know, where there’s a will, there’s a way.

However he took this as his opportunity to quit. He would be away from home and with other non-smokers and kids who the adults had to set an example for.

His last cigarette was before leaving on that trip.

He did vape for awhile, but after two to three weeks he had no urge to smoke. That may not be common for most smokers.

I asked was it a habit or an addiction. For my nephew it was a habit, part of a routine, something he did when he got up in the morning, after he ate, after work, when hanging out with friends.

By breaking the routine, being away from home and making a commitment to his daughter, he was able to do it. That’s will!

I asked how he feels about himself. Physically he doesn’t notice much change. However, he has a huge sense of accomplishment that he did it and he also fulfilled his commitment to his daughter setting the example for her.

I find that uncommon, inspiring, and a display of character. I’m proud of him and my young niece!

This reminds me we are not meant to be common, to do things because everyone else is doing it. We are here to be our own person, who we were meant to be.

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Only You

I focus on those things that only I can do, that’s when I make my best contribution.

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