It’s a Matter of Perspective

Whatever I am going through there is always someone who has it worse.

True story: “I wish I had my old problems back” she said. Those are recent words of a young woman, the mother of three beautiful girls. Three years ago, the youngest girl, who was one year old at the time, ate some popcorn at a church picnic. Everything was fine until the next day when she started choking. The girl stopped breathing before the paramedics arrived. After being put on life support and thorough examination they found an unpopped corn kernel in her throat that caused the choking.

This sweet girl, now four years old, has been in a vegetative state since that day tragedy struck. Unless there is a miracle, she will likely never come out of it. Her parents have full time care for her as someone needs to suction the girl’s throat every five minutes. Life as mom knew it was forever changed on that day.

The young woman’s old problems were getting the kids ready for school on time, making sure their homework was done, lunches made, and keeping up with daily housework all while working full time as an executive assistant. That sounds like a lot to do. Putting it into perspective I wish for her she had her old problems back.

I am reminded to be grateful for my problems, and to see them as opportunities. Whatever it is it will pass and someone, many, have it worse than me. That is for sure. I focus on those others and send love and compassion and am grateful for whatever I have.

Gratitude, it works every time I have a low moment and it will work for you too.

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So It’s Respect You Want?

Respect has to be earned no matter who you are.

True Story: A few weeks ago I heard on the news that “Nut Job” was the number one most googled term of the day. According to the urban dictionary it was spelled “nutjob” and is defined as a person that is crazy or nuts.

Now that we have the President of the United States calling the former FBI Director a “nutjob” will the term make it to Webster’s Dictionary? Will we all start using it when someone says or does something we don’t like? Will it give us all permission to use derogatory language to describe someone we want to harm?

Let’s hope not. The title of President doesn’t give him automatic respect; he has to earn it through his words and actions like everyone else.

We are all President of something, our household, our personal daily life, our business, and if we want respect from others we have to deserve it. Honestly it isn’t that hard to get, because as people we all want other people to look up to.

I remember the few golden rules learned in grade school:

  • Treat others the way you want to be treated
  • Do what you say you would do
  • Don’t hurt people
  • Play fair
  • Clean up your own mess
  • Say you’re sorry

If you can do that, you get respect, from me anyway.

I now have heightened awareness to choose my words carefully when describing other people. I never know who will be listening and how it will affect them, what they will do with the language I use, and how they will remember me.

I also believe it’s up to me to listen, be aware, and decide what I will take from other people. I don’t follow people because of their title, rather people who have earned my respect through their words and actions.

How about you?

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Send Love

Love what is lovable in people and send love and compassion for what is not.

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The Power of Influence

Yesterday I heard on the news that “Nut Job” was the number one most googled term of the day. According to the urban dictionary it was spelled “nutjob” and is defined as a person that is crazy or nuts.

Now that we have the President of the United States calling the former FBI Director a “nutjob” will the term make it to Webster’s Dictionary? Will we all start using

it when someone says or does something we don’t like? Will it give us all permission to use derogatory language to describe someone we want to harm?

We all have the power to influence others, be it our children, our co-workers, our friends. I now have heightened awareness to choose my words carefully when describing other people. I never know who will be listening and how it will affect them, what they will do with the language I use, and how they will remember me.

Acts of Kindness

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Resilience

Bella lost a leg.

She adjusted.

She’s resilient.

However she did go through a period of depression.

She knew she couldn’t do all the things she used to do.

Still she was able to get out, sniff, watch, and be with humans

and other four-legged creatures.

She figured it out.

She could still run and play with my dog, Anya.

Bella is smart, like most dogs.

Anya is sensitive.

Anya knows Bella can’t run like she used to and she waited for her.

She let her catch up and even get ahead (sometimes).

3ldogflowerI love that.

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Find Your Path

When you have a path, you don’t have to think as much. You’re confident and know where you’re going. Find your path.

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On Forgiveness

Forgiving is one time. Resentment is a full time job, all day, every day. Forgive and move on.

Dog and Cat

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Be Who You Are

The best way to standout is to be you. Nobody can do it better.

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Learning from the Masters

I’ve learned and wrote in my Idea Poetry book bonus tips for success. One of my favorites is: “Watch sports for inspiration. Every point, every play is executed with heart, soul, and passion. The next play it starts all over. There’s no dwelling on the past, good or bad, the athlete shakes it off and is in the now. Do that!”

True Story: In early April I watched the Masters Golf Tournament, the four day extravaganza in Augusta where the top players compete for the coveted green jacket.

Throughout the tournament the announcers were interviewing players and quoting what some said about their preparation for the match.

Here are a few that we all can incorporate into everyday life.
“Walk and carry yourself with intensity and confidence.”
“The only thing you can control is what’s in front of you right now, this one shot, not the next shot or the last shot, this one.”
“The artist and the technician; you need to be both to win.”
“Positive vibes and unbridled determination wins in the end.”

From Sergio Garcia, the winner:
Before the tournament:
“The only thing I can do at the end of the day is keep working at it and giving myself chances and eventually it will happen. I will win.”

During the tournament:
“To give myself the best possible chances of playing to my potential I must prepare for every eventuality.”

After winning the tournament:
“I played within myself, made committed golf swings, and stuck to my game plan.”

On or off the golf course, the advice will work for you too!

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Unchanging

One of the things I love about life is it’s never unchanging, it’s always changing. What worked for me in my life yesterday, what brought joy and laughter isn’t necessarily going to bring it today.

I wish it would. Life would be so much easier if I knew what to expect the next day.

Then as I rest in the darkness at night I think to myself there is something exciting about the unknown, the promise of what a new day will bring. I know for sure it’s another chance to make a difference, to contribute, to meet new people, and to learn more about life.

Instead of wishes for the same I try and fall asleep filled with light, love, truth, and hope to find peace with the promise of a new day. That ritual, that process, every night is dependable, unchanging.

I find comfort in that.

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